Yesterday we attended our first Wedding Preparation Course under the kind invitation of Pastor Alex! This was going to be a Christian version of the WPC so it'll be mainly teachings from the Bible. Me and dear were excited about it..at least unlike other couples I know where the guy is practically forced into attending by the gal, mine was quite willing to go through this with me.
There were 4 couples in total, 3 soon-to-be Husband and Wife and one married couple who is there to assist us. Everything has been prepared for us when we reached...dinner, drinks, fruits and snacks..we were really touched by the kind gesture.
The first session is on communication, one of the key factor that causes breakups in marriage. We watched a DVD on other couples that shared their own experiences in poor communication and how they managed to overcome it. Dear of cos agree with most of them...(he kept complaining about how he is often not understood or ignored by me). Well, I do admit to some extent my patience is rather short...but well, like what Pastor Alex said, we have a lifetime together to practise our communication skills~. Hehe
I had the chance to communicate to dear about all the pressure I am facing with our wedding prep. He has been too preoccupied by his work lately to help out..but he promised he'll make the effort. I am glad the other couples we met shared the same problems as well..haha..so I am not the only lonely soul out there..it helps.
But I guess we both benefited from the workshop in a sense, for me, I felt something different, to me, marriage is no longer about 2 persons getting together and staying together...its really about the unity of 2 entity into 1...in a Christianity way, the missing rib is placed back to where it belongs...close to the heart of the man you love. And being able to find the someone that you belong to in this big world is really not easy, so its important we cherish him/her once we've found them. Some might find that theirs is a mismatch or a wrong choice made...but most of us will be able to find the correct one at first try...but I believe a good relationship takes time, effort, patience, selflessness and lots of love to work out. So continue working on it i guess~